Change Your Life 10 Lessons


Idea Number 9


Do you consider yourself a builder of walls or a builder of roads? Every one of us throughout this life is building either walls or roads. How do you see yourself? I can across this short poem by Evelyn Hartwich who put this most simply and most beautifully when she said: “Great roads the Roman built that men might meet. Yet walls also, to keep men apart, secureNew centuries are gone and in defeat. The walls are fallen, but the road endure.”

Do you build roads, mental roads, by which you can meet and share yourself with other people? Or, do you erect mental walls that separate you from others? It would seem to me that all the endeavor and all the

material substance that goes into providing a wall of separation from other people is a complete waste of labor and materials because that wall can never, ever stand.

The Truth is that we are Spiritual Beings, created in Spiritual unity with all mankind and that our puny human walls of separation can never stand in perpetuity. But the roads, that’s another story. That’s different. Do you build roads that join you with other people, the mighty turnpike arteries of intellectual communication with people that come into your daily life in business; do you have this communication that transcends your business contact?

What about quiet avenues of shared emotion. Do you build roads from your heart to other people’s heats, the roads of common understanding, the roads of shared happiness, shared sadness, uplifted hearts joined together in common courage? Do you build these types of avenues, or the quiet lanes of love and understanding? These need no paving with words. They are leaf- covered lanes of a smile, a touch, or just a look that says, “I know, I understand, I love you.” Do you build these types of lanes, which are ever enduring? Nothing can destroy these.

Take time today to determine whether you are going to build walls with wasted manpower, wasted mental endeavor, wasted spiritual substance, in an attempt to separate yourself from your fellow man, or decide whether you are going to build intellectual arteries of common mental enjoyment, broad emotional avenues of shared experience and leafy lanes of unspoken spiritual unity. As we decide to build with your thinking process, you will condition the nature of the world. It can be a world of walls, walling you in, or a world of roads that can travel into joy eternal. The choice is up to you.

Idea Number 10 NOT IN OUR STARS

Do you think of yourself as being a lucky person or an unlucky person?

Do you think you get more than your share of the good breaks in life; or do you think you get more than your fair share of the bad breaks?

When we’re thinking about those hopes and dreams of ours that didn’t come true, and those ambitions of ours that came to nothing, we’re often apt to put the blame on that something called fate, or good and bad luck. And it really is nonsense, isn’t it? Some of us say, “It’s in the stars,” or “It wasn’t in the stars.” We talk to cover up our own shortcomings. We make our own luck, good or bad, by the nature of our consciousness. I think that Shakespeare sums that up very well in Julius Caesar when he says, “Men at some time are master of their fate, the fault dear Brutus is not with the stars, but in ourselves.” We underlings might indeed be master of our own fate if only we could bring all our thoughts and actions into line with the creative purpose for our life. If only we could align our thinking with our purpose, then we indeed would become master of our own fate. But how few of us are really prepared to trust our own Inner Guidance? Oh no, we prefer to reply on our judgments, and our past conditioning and when things go wrong, we’re prepared to blame God or fate, or the stars, or something else that didn’t go right.

If the past, all the past, could be played out before us, acted out in every detail, we should soon see when and where we went wrong, and we would be able to see in the play acting of our past, the very point at which we left the right road to follow a wrong star. We could see where we made the fatal mistake. We made the choice, you see. God gave

us the gift of life, but he also gave us the gift of free will. We are the ones who make the choices that either make or break the human life.

Any time we want to, we can change the choices, and accept a different kind of life. Don’t blame the stars for your problem, blame yourself because you acted like an underling, rather than one who is created in the image and likeness of the Great Reality. It is our faults and failings that throw grit in the wheels of destiny, and not some blind fate trying to trip us up, to hurt us or harm us. The Great Reality seeks only to pour into our lives the unformed substance of absolute good. Whatever we do with it by the nature of our consciousness is our responsibility. Out of every circumstance good can be made. We have within us the ingredients of good in every circumstance, and as we accept this circumstance, you’ll find the so-called fates are suddenly behind, and all goes well in our world. Why? Because we have aligned our path with the path of Creative Intelligence that always guides us to the perfect solution. All we need to do is to be open, responsive, and receptive to our own Inner Guidance.

Idea Number 11


Do you like pretty packages? Most of us do. I had an interesting thought about pretty packages when I stopped in at one of the very beautiful department stores while I was travelling. I was looking at some merchandise and at the next counter there was a lady looking for a special kind or fancy soap. It was not the kind that one buys normally for one’s own use, which comes three bars to the package and is a very ordinary soap, but each bar is wrapped in transparent paper to make it a tight and shiny fit.

Then these little boxes sit in a cardboard tray and that too is wrapped in a colored transparent covering. Then there was a beautiful paper ribbon and a tiny bunch of imitation violets. Quite a package just for three humble cakes of soap intended to get you clean. Then I had the shock of my life when the lady serving at the counter smiled very sweetly and asked the woman customer a question that just threw me over. She asked, “Would you like me to gift wrap it for you?” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Isn’t this just like so many things in our own lives? Here is the soap, perfectly normal, useful soap that becomes wrapped around so many times that we begin to lose sight of the original objective.

The original objective in this package was to provide soap with which to clean ourselves. Yet by the time we had it wrapped and wrapped and over wrapped, the original soap becomes completely lost in the issue. We are far more worried about the packaging than getting clean.

In our lives all too often we are so concerned with the packaging, the gift wrapping over gift-wrapping, tinsel over tinsel, that we lose sight of the basic material of life. I mean livingness its very self.

All too often we become too concerned in job, home, family, finances, that we lose sight of the very livingness which we are.

You see, underneath all the tinsel of day to day existence you are the living expression of Life itself. If that sounds like a platitude, it isn’t. You are the living expression of life itself. This means that you are the living expression of the power of Creative Intelligence.

Don’t allow the wrapping and the over wrapping of this life to allow you to lose sight of that all important concept because when you recognize

yourself to be the living expression of Creative Intelligence, you begin to live life the way you intended, and you have a life gloriously beyond your wildest dreams.

Idea Number 12


Do the names of Burke and Hare mean anything to you? They were once famous, or should I say, notorious characters. These two men discovered that there was a very good business to be had in digging up recently interred bodies and selling them to medical schools. This was back many years ago, around 1827. A terrible thing, of course, but ask yourself, are you perhaps a grave robber yourself? I don’t mean to shock you, or to be disrespectful, but many of us are grave robbers without knowing it.

You see, every time you dig up an old grievance or an old mistake by rehearsing it over and over in your mind, or worse still, by talking to somebody else about it, you simply are ripping open a grave, and you know right well what you expect to find, don’t you.

Live in the present, resolve your present problems, prepare intellectually for the future, but let the past ALONE. Just leave it. This is what the Great Teacher meant when He said, “Let the dead bury the dead.” To think about the past and to live in the past is death. Every time you do so you strengthen a little bit more of your belief in Time and in Time’s limitations. You make yourself older, weaker and you bring on your own senility. God says, “Now is the day of salvation, behold I make all things new!”– and God knows best.

Make it a rule for yourself that you are not going to mentally embrace any negative thing that has happened to you up to this very minute, and keep that rule. Life is much too precious to go grave robbing. The past is the past; it’s gone release it. This is the greatest secret of handling all our grievances, all our blunders, all our disappointments, and all our failures – release them. You do this simply by writing them off in your mind, cleaning the slate of your mind and refusing to think of them as having any present existence. You see, the only existence that they can have is in your mind.

The present is full of wonder and interest, and therefore, is such a glorious place for all of us that it is just plain foolish to waste our spirit and our substance on things that are dead. Leave the past. Release it. Set it free. Don’t go robbing the grave, overturning bones of dead mistakes, failures and past events. This is a new day. Rejoice and be glad in it. Leave the past in the past.


this for a Truth – if you release the past!

Idea Number 13


Do you try to cut your lawn with a pair of scissors, or do you try to open tin cans with a penknife? Of course you don’t. You run your home with the most efficient tools you can find and afford.

But what about your life? What sort of tools do you use to run your life? You see, every thought we think, every word we speak, every deed we do and everything we allow ourselves to possess has its effect upon our physical body and its part in deciding the environment and the kind of

people that we draw to us. If we sometimes get what we call punishment, or a raw deal, we, ourselves, created that thing, although perhaps unconsciously.

Within each of us is a great mechanism for creation. You might call it the chamber of imagery and thoughts. In it are materials that we use to create. The tool that we use to shape our thoughts is our imaging power – imagination, we usually call it. This imaging power, like all other God-given faculties, is under our own control and our own direction.

It would seem sometimes, judging from the outer experiences of our affairs, that our image maker, our imagination, is also a bit of a mischief- maker, because it brings forth, in the body and affairs things that we don’t care to claim for ourselves.

But the law is that the bringing forth in the body and affairs is always according to the picture and the pattern that we hold in the mental image. Sadness, sickness and poverty are indications that something is wrong with our mental machinery. We form a poverty consciousness or a sick consciousness by letting thoughts of poverty or sickness stay in our mind until the imaging power lays hold of them and crystallizes them in our life.

The best thing to conquer any wrong thought, is the moment that it enters the mind. That’s the moment where it is the weakest. But even better than conquering a thought when it enters the mind, is to try to prevent it from entering at all. A faithfully doorkeeper of thoughts, a vigilant watchman over the imaging power will allow only thoughts of a constructive character to pass over the threshold into the chamber of imagery.

It is important to exercise conscious control over our thoughts. Every thought has a bearing on that which appears in our life and affairs. The only way to bring about a change in present conditions or situations is to make a definite change in thought habits. We have a great responsibility when it comes to thinking. We must remember at all times that our mental attitude, our thoughts and words, are the creative or destructive influences in the world in which we live. Do you constantly say, “I can’t, I’m sick, I’m too poor, I’m too tired?” You deny yourself the power, health and prosperity, which is rightfully yours. Thoughts of envy, malice, jealousy, anger, pride, hypocrisy, hate, cause your body to reflect disharmony and diseases.

Think and use the tools of imagery wisely and say, “I am well, I have plenty, I have limitless energy. I am at peace with my world and with all men,” then you open the way for health, success and happiness. If you are loving and kind, if you treat all men and women honestly, charitably, you will soon find yourself in the kingdom of all good. Life will indeed be rich and rewarding.

Idea Number 14 THE WEIGHT OF THE “I”

Did you ever think about the weight of the letters of the alphabet? Did you ever consider the alphabet as having a weight?

For example, what is the weight of a capital “I” with no dot over it in comparison to the small “i,” the little one with the dot on top? Sometimes there is a fantastic difference in weight. I wonder if it has ever occurred to you that in all the European languages, the English language is the only one that has a capital “I” anywhere in the middle of a sentence when it refers to the first person singular,

“I,” and that is the capital “I” that we see and give so much weight to. Sometimes we give it so much weight that it impedes our own lives.

The weight of the “I” can oftentimes limits things in our own lives rather than accent them. You know what I mean. Someone in a restaurant sits down, gasping, “I’m exhausted. I’ve been shopping for the last two years. Where on earth is that waitress?” Well, it so happens that she has been on her feet for more than just two hours. Wouldn’t it be a surprise to her if the customers said, “Isn’t it hard; how do you cope with running about this restaurant in this weather?” Have you ever noticed how anyone of us objects to the weight of somebody else’s “I” being greater than the weight of ours?

Someone once told me that nothing made her more angry than when she would say to her husband, “Oh, I have an ache in my shoulder this morning,” and he would answer, “Yes, my arm’s real bad too.” Nobody likes to think that when they’ve got an ache or pain, somebody else has got a bigger ache or pain that they have. The weight of the “I” becomes so terribly important.

I am sure that you remember the occasion when the Master Teacher decided to retire to a place apart for awhile, but the people thronged around Him just at the very same time when the weight of His “I” must have been wanting solitude and peace. The crowd swelled to about five thousand, stormed around and pressed to see Him. It was impossible to hear or even touch Him. Now, how exasperated He should have been. He should have said that He came up here so that He could get some peace and quiet. But he didn’t say that, did He? He thought nothing about His own comfort and frustration. He said, “Make them sit down.”

He didn’t say, “Now where am ‘I’ supposed to sit in the midst of all this crowd?” He said, “Make them sit down,” and He set about His task of feeding them all.

The greatest mark of a great person is basic humility. I’m not talking about subservience. This is not what I mean. I mean to recognize the weight of the “I” as balanced with the weight of the “U” and not preponderant over it. As you go forward in your world, try and see how long you can go without putting forth a weighty “I” and you will find that you will make a lot more friends than you have ever made before because the weight of the capital “I” is exactly the same as the weight of the capital “U.”

Idea Number 15


Are you inclined to be a little bit of a “worry-wart?” I love the story of the man who went to the psychiatrist because he was worrying himself sick and the psychiatrist, through the use of hypnosis, was able to remove the worries from the man’s mind and he went away cured and very, very happy. The following day he came back into the psychiatrist’s office in an absolute tizzy. He said, “Doctor, doctor, I’m dreadfully worried,” and the doctor asked, “What on earth are you worried about?” He answered, “Doctor, I can’t remember what it is I’m supposed to a worry about.”

I guess that’s the way many of us are. This is a worry-crazed world that we live in. Many of our present ills are due to worries, the ones that we acknowledge, and also the ones that we hid even from ourselves. Worry lowers the tone of the mind and wears down our resistance

to disease and despair. Worry is a killer. Make no mistake about it; worry is a real killer. Why then do we worry?

Perhaps you say that you can’t help it. Worry has become a habit and you can’t break up a long-standing habit in a few months. That’s true. I’ll accept that, but if you’re going to break it up at all, you’ll have to start somewhere, won’t you? You’ll have to begin sometime, so why not right here and now? Even if your worries cannot be overcome in two minutes, you’ve go to start sometime. Will there ever be a better time to begin than now? Try to make this one day a worryless day for you. If you’re anxious over any particular point, try to realize that the thing will either happen or not happen. Those are the two alternatives. If you are anxious about an impending event, either it will happen or it won’t happen.

That’s a pretty simple alternative and your worrying won’t make any difference about it, will it? It will only make you less fit to cope with the situation should it turn out as you feel it will. By the time the thing happens, you’ll have so worn down your resources by worry that you may not be able to cope with it; but if you can divorce the worry, even if the worse happens, you’ll find that you’ve got strength and courage to deal with it.

Give up the idea that things cannot go right unless you worry about them. Give up worry the way a swimmer give us his water wings when he realizes that he can swim without them. If you’ve ever had swimming lessons, you’ll remember you flopped wildly about in the water at first. You made a lot of effort, but it didn’t seem to get you anywhere, then, suddenly, you let yourself go. “I’ve got it!” you cried, “I can swim!” and that’s how it will be when you develop the technique of letting yourself relax mentally, “I’ve got it,” you’ll say, “I can swim in the sea of life, I can swim without worry,” All the time that you worry you’re simply thrashing

about in the waters of life and virtually drowning yourself. Whereas, if you would simply be still and try to live this as a worryless day, you’ll be on your way to learning to swim peacefully in the seas of life and you’ll find that it’s a much better life as a result.

Idea Number 16


Are you are flatterer? Most of us like to compliment our friends, but there’s a fine line, isn’t there, between the compliment and flattery. To see and to say sincere, complimentary things about other people is a gracious custom and makes life more livable for all of us. But as always, just as with money for example, long with the genuine and the good, comes the counterfeit and the bad, and the counterfeit of a sincere compliment is flattery.

There are many degrees of flattery and there are as many motives that prompt us to indulge on it. Sometimes it’s nothing more than a simple bit of apple-polishing, just like the school student taking an apple to the teacher in the hopes that a few flattering words may take the place of a little hard work and earnest study. There are times when we seem to be in an atmosphere of flattery with everybody trying to outdo everybody else and no really sincere appreciation or complimenting going on.

To flatter somebody in the hope that there will be patronage, favors, or preferment can prove to be the most arduous and unsatisfactory kind of work, more difficult than the work that we would have had to have done that this flattery is meant to replace.

Because you see, people who are given to flattery are dissuading themselves from work and yet doing harder work in the very flattery. Indeed, flattery is pretty much like a drug; once you start to flatter somebody, you find yourself with a tiger by the tail. Ever- increasing doses of flattery produce an ever-diminishing effect, until the result is completely negative. The person who lives by flattery rather than by merit, lives a precarious existence at best and would do well to learn, while there is yet time, that the same amount of work dedicated to constructive and honest purposes, brings a much better and safer result.

But, I suppose flattery is most malicious when it’s used with the deliberate intention of blinding somebody’s judgment or to weaken somebody’s resolution, to try to get somebody to act in a manner less worthily and less intelligently than they otherwise would, or to cause them to give up some point of principle. It was, I think, with this in mind that the Psalmist wrote, “With flattering lips and with a double heart do they speak.” Of this type of flattery, we can well suppose that we’re getting absolutely nowhere in a constructive and useful use of our mind and our life. Flattery can never be trusted. There’s no friendship in flattery and there is, between the self-motivated work of flattery and the completely unmotivated, sincere word of appreciation, a chasm wider than the Grand Canyon.

As you go forth in life look for the good. See that which is sincerely good and give compliment where compliment is due, but do not attempt to buy peace of mind, social acceptance or business preferment by flattery. It is a false coin and in time will become your master.

Idea Number 17


I’m sure you remember the tragic story of the “Titanic,” but I wonder if you know the story of the “California,” which is so closely related to the story of the Titanic?

You will remember that back in 1912, Great Britain sent her greatest steamship, the White Star liner Titanic, across the Atlantic Ocean. The Titanic was the largest ship that had ever been built up to that time and it was claimed that it was completely unsinkable, yet halfway across the Atlantic the ship hit a submerged iceberg and sank very rapidly. Of the 2,000 passengers aboard, 1,517 lives were lost. There was, of course, a tremendous outcry about this tragic loss human lives and a great investigation was conducted and the causes were found to include excessive speed on the part of the boat, insufficient and inefficiently manned lifeboats, but above all, lack of information about icebergs, and as a result, the International Iceberg Patrol was formed and stringent safety rules were brought into being, and that investigation yielded another very strange piece of information that few of us know about.

At the time when the Titanic went down, just thirty miles away, was another ship, the California! Now this was before the days of very efficient radio communication and radio operators were few and far between and that night the one and only radio operation on the California had closed down his board at ten-thirty and had gone to bed. An hour later, the Titanic operator was sending out frantic “S.O.S.” please, but the wireless set on the California was closed and deaf to those pleas for help. The Titanic actually sank while another ship, which

could have reached her side in less than an hour went sailing on her way totally unaware of the tragedy, and this, to me, is the greatest tragedy of the Titanic. The fact that help was available and somebody could have helped but wasn’t aware that help was needed!

There’s a great lesson in this for us, isn’t there? As you sail on the sea of life, somebody’s life is going to run up on some sort of an iceberg, somebody is going to be in great difficulty and in that difficulty, they are going to cry out. But the sad thing about human beings that cry out, is that they don’t cry out “S.O.S” or “Help me,I’m in desperate need,” They react in anger, in sulkiness, in sarcasm or in some way that they just pray is going to get them attention. Take time to listen for the “S.O.S.” of the other human ships passing over the sea of life. Don’t hear, “I hate you.” Hear the desperate plea that say, “Please love me. I’m hurt, I’m lost and I’m lonely.” Don’t hear, “Mind your own business.” Hear, “Help me, I’m lonely and I need love.” Those messages, those calls for help are to be found in every “striking out” that you meet this day. Don’t be a “California.” Know that the “Titanics” are foundering all around you, but that can hear the “S.O.S.” and give the help that is needed. That’s why you were put where you are today.

Idea Number 18


Have you ever thought how many wonderful people build castles in the air and then live in mental horror? They have these wonderful castles of the mind; they have a castle of joy, a castle that they call personal happiness and within this they live a life of joy that never palls on them. Or, they have this castle of achievement, where, in their mind, they feel themselves accomplishing wonderful

things, doing fine work without committing stupid blunders and seeing themselves as really achieving something worthwhile. Then they have this other castle of companionship where they see themselves as a charming person, rich in friends and supremely necessary to the people that they love best.

In these castles of the mind they see themselves living out the good life and they themselves, as their true beings, set free, one with life, with a chance of living as they really are. But then, when they come down from these mental castles into their daily life, they sit in desolation and say that it’s quite impossible to build up real happiness out of the little things that surround them. Other people have the great gifts and the opportunities and the human love and the recognition; other people have the marble and the granite and the polished oak that enable them to build temples out of their lives; but me, I’m left with the lumber and the clay that builds a hovel of life.

Well, it just isn’t true, is it? We’re never forced back from the great things into the little things. We are continually being urged forward from the little things to the greatest things of all if we will only open our eyes and see that nothing is really lacking except the resolve to build; the resolve to accept those castles in the mind as feasible and practical and come from this wonderful world of the mind, and resolve to build these sort of castles in our daily life. If you will bring your castles of the mind to the point of resolve, you can have them in your daily life.

Idea Number 19


How old do you think we are? I mean we – all of mankind. Do you think that mankind is in its early stages? Do you think that perhaps mankind has reached middle age and from here on its going to be decline and further decline? Or, do you believe that mankind is approaching the end, and that within a short time mankind will be no more upon the face of the earth, or out in the galaxies?

Personally, I think that the human race is only just now coming out of its earliest babyhood, the greatest lies ahead of us. Today, mankind is like a child of twelve or thirteen years of age in the Cosmic Universe.

Scientists estimate that man has been on the earth a million years; and that’s conservative. He’s been here much longer than that and civilizations have existed for tens of thousands of those years. Most of those civilizations, now forgotten, and their remnants are buried underneath the oceans, or under the desert, underneath mountain, or great mounds. Yet notwithstanding all this – early antecedents – the human race is only now in its earliest childhood.

The greatest days of mankind lie before us. All the really great achievements of the human race are still unborn. Music of the future will surpass even the greatest names today. Beethoven, Mozart and Bach will be surpassed, just as they, in their day, surpassed the beating of crude, native drums. Literature will be produced that will make the works of Shakespeare, Milton and the other great lights of our civilization look like children’s story telling.

In art, the art of ancient Greece, never equaled since, will be overtaken and surpassed by new waves of spiritual inspiration expressing through the art of mankind.

The greatest engineering feats of today: bridges and dams, airplanes, electronics and atomics will be like toys compared to the engineering that is yet to come in the future of mankind.

Above all, man’s understanding of himself: man’s understanding of his spiritual nature and of his spiritual world will grow by fantastic proportions. The religious geniuses of the past will be as pygmies compared with the spiritual leaders of the future.

Probably the greatest advance of man will be the tapping of the vast reservoirs of strength, courage and wisdom, which he has never before touched.

So don’t worry about the future of mankind. Turn your own eyes toward your future, for the best is yet to be.

Dr. Robert Anthony

Dr. Robert Anthony

The works of Dr Robert Anthony are some of the best kept secrets on the Law of Attraction. Operating without the massive self-promotion and razzmatazz that so often accompanies other ‘Personal Development’ teachers, Dr Anthony has nevertheless provided a guiding direction to some of the most successful people on the planet.

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