HOW THE “ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE” INCREASES YOUR WIN FACTOR

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One of the key principles responsible for increasing your Win Factor concerns itself with giving or “outflowing.” The universe consists of pure energy, and this energy is in a state of constant flux. ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Once you fully understand the nature of this inflow and outflow, you will find it possible to tune into its constant, steady rhythm. The main thing to remember is this: In order to increase inflow, it is necessary to proportionately increase outflow. As you give of your own energy and substance; you will automatically create a space of more to flow in.

Many people who have never acquired a “giving” nature have failed to do so out of fear. What they actually fear is that there will not be enough to go around. It is a ludicrous idea at best since the universe is a source of constant abundance. Everything we need is always available to us.

Ample opportunities, a constant flow of money, never-ending ideas, wonderful dreams and all the right people and circumstances to assist you, your own inner talents, experience and knowledge. While these are frequently ignored or underestimated, they are the most valuable assets you will ever possess!

LEARNING TO GO WITH THE FLOW

What we are basically concerned with here is the outflow rather than the inflow. Why? Because when you cling too tightly to what you have, you must inevitably lose it.

Look at those who are constantly lacking. Notice how tightly they grasp at life. Notice how little they have, and how luck seems to constantly elude them.

“I’ll never get ahead!” is a common complaint, and one that may well be true. I would urge you not to identify with such people since there is nothing to be gained by feeling wronged, or cheated.

When you begin to believe such things, all you are doing is piling more negativity on top of another. Try to understand that it is your own desperation and despair that is cutting you off from a flow of good luck. It is because you are preoccupied with taking rather than giving that you feel limited and constantly in need.

An Attitude of GRATITUDE

It is important to be grateful for whatever you have, no matter how little it may be. And, of course, you should never allow yourself to make comparisons, since if you persist in evaluating your own personal or monetary worth against another’s, you are doomed to eternal discontent.

There will always be some that have more, or seem to have more, but what has that to do with you? When you have an attitude of gratitude, you are living with the positive affirmation that there is no real lack in your life. And once you freely acknowledge this, you will begin to activate the seed of abundance that must inevitably produce even more.

While this is a wonderful thing to know, it should never become your underlying motive for gratitude or giving. You should never think in terms of how much you will NEED to give, as if it were a price to be paid for something you desire in return. Gratitude and giving are ends in themselves.

They enable us to grow in both mental and spiritual ways, opening our minds to the abundance of the universe, to its infinite wisdom, substance and power. It is only when we let go of our limited thinking that we can expand into a larger life where prosperity thoughts and prosperity actions will help to insure our prosperity.

Being a good receiver

It isn’t only football players that need to perfect this skill. The fact is many givers are also bad receivers. An unwillingness to accept what others have to give is often perpetuated by the desire for control. There are those who through their own acts of generosity seek to make others dependent upon them. And, of course, there is also the long-suffering or martyristic motive.

In your own life, I would urge you to strive for a healthy balance between giving and receiving, thereby enabling others to enjoy the same good feelings that you enjoy whenever you perform a kind or generous act.

Increasing Your Win Factor Through Gratitude

Here are some highly effective ways in which to increase your Win Factor through an Attitude of Gratitude:

  1. Take the time to express appreciation to others in as many ways as possible – through a letter or card, a phone call, a gift, a word, a touch.
  2. Practice using more words of appreciation and thanks for whatever you have. Remind yourself often, and say these words aloud. Tell others how grateful you are for the abundance in your life, realizing even as you do so that you are effectively applying the principle of positive affirmation.
  3. Practice telling others how grateful you are to them for what they have contributed to your life. “It was kind of you to help me.” “I want you to know how much I appreciate you.” “Thank you for the wonderful surprise.”
  4. Sort through your possessions and dispose of times you no longer need so that others may benefit from their use. Don’t be afraid to let go! You can replace what is given away with newer and better things, but first, you must make room for something newer and better to come into your life.
  5. Refuse to save money out of the fear of not having enough. This kind of fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy and, eventually, will cause you to lose what you have. Allow yourself an occasional extravagance, take a friend to dinner, and contribute to a worthy cause. Every action of this kind is living proof that you have faith in universal abundance, and the law of inflow and outflow.
  6. Give of your own energy. Share your ideas and creative talents with others. Help them succeed and your own success will multiply.

Remember! To the extent that you demonstrate an Attitude of Gratitude, your Win Factor will proportionately increase.

GIVING – THE KEY TO A MORE EXPANSIVE LIFE

The law of giving will open up new opportunities for you and broaden those you already have. It will expand your character and personality. It will place you in the company of those who have helped transform the world, and give new meaning to your life. Yes, giving can do that, and should do that, and will do that, if it is done in the proper way.

  • What do you think of yourself emotionally?
  • Do you take pride in maintaining a stoic attitude during times of stress and despair?
  • What do you think you are in danger of losing or destroying in the course of “revealing” yourself?
  • Isn’t it possible that others would gravitate toward you out of a sense of “having walked in your shoes?”

Isn’t it possible that something productive, something good, something character-building could come out of what you perceive to be an emotional weakness, out of your need to give away some aspect of yourself that you have always attempted to conceal?

You can literally starve yourself by withholding yourself from others, by refusing to enter into friendships, or loving relationships, since the law of abundance is a two-way street!

SCATTERED GIVING

Having talked about people who do not know how to give, let us now talk about people who do not know the proper way in which to give. Quite often, these are persons who give a miniscule amount of their money or time to a number of worthy causes. The problem is that they

give so little of themselves or their resources that it hardly makes a difference. Here again, the object is to be seen as a giver, which may not really have anything to do with wanting to do good.

Scattered giving can bring scattered, ineffectual results, both for the giver and the recipient. How much more effective it would be to concentrate on one major mission, to believe that you can make a monumental difference by devoting yourself with dedication and determination to one incredible cause.

Do not concern yourself with what will happen to you – the giver. Do not depend upon persons or conditions for your prosperity. Simply allow the power and abundance of the universe to provide you with a constant source of supply. It will once you open the door and allow it to enter.

Developing an attitude of gratitude

At times, the only way to develop an Attitude of Gratitude is to deliberately remind yourself of the many things you have to be grateful for. One way of doing this is to properly acknowledge yourself, and also, significant others in your life. If you are not accustomed to thinking along these lines, it may be difficult at first. A good way to get started is to make an actual list.

Can you think of fifteen positive things about yourself? Do the best you can. See if you can think of additional things to be added.

List of Personal Attributes for Which I am Grateful

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If you found it difficult to think of fifteen positive things to say about yourself, do not despair. All it really means is that you have somehow gotten out of the habit of seeing yourself in a good light. Some possible answers might well have included the following:

  1. Talented
  2. Determined
  3. Creative
  4. Practical
  5. Likable
  6. Flexible
  7. Enduring
  8. Self-assertive
  9. Well-Organized
  10. Versatile
  11. Loyal
  12. Loving
  13. Honest
  14. Level-Headed
  15. Generous

Although I do not know you personally, I am writing to bet that I’ve listed a lot of your outstanding attributes, and possibly some you did not think to list yourself. Can you see how much you have to be grateful for? I sincerely hope you do! Now then, let’s move on to the second list.

This time, I would like you to list all the significant others in your life, anyone who has encouraged you, inspired you and helped you to become the person you are today. Think hard and try to include everyone who has had some lasting influence upon your life, and those with whom you have had shared some truly memorable experiences.

People I AM TRULY GRATEFUL TO HAVE KNOWN: –

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You may have found this list somewhat easier to compile that the previous one, and perhaps some of the answers surprised you. Did you find yourself thinking of people you hadn’t thought about in years? People who were once very near and very dear to you. Yes, we do tend to forget. We stop being grateful.

And now, on to the last list. This will be a list of personal achievements. While many may have faded from your mind, I urge you to recall them now. Go back as far as you can. No success, however small, should be considered insignificant.

My List of Personal Achievements

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In compiling this list, did you find yourself itemizing such accomplishments as the first gold star you ever earned in kindergarten?

If so, good for you! When considered in its proper context, that gold star was as much of an accomplishment as anything else that you have ever done. The object then was to excel. And you did. Just as you are doing now.

On the off chance that you may have had some trouble with this list, let me once again supply you with some hypothetical answers. See if you can relate to any of them and, if so, feel free to adopt them as your own.

MY LIST OF PERSONAL ACHIEVEMENTS

  1. Local spelling bee champion – 7th grade
  2. High school homecoming queen
  3. Class valedictorian
  4. Starting my own business
  5. My marriage
  6. Motherhood
  7. Consistent progress in my chosen field
  8. A long friendship
  9. Increased income
  10. Sales contest winner
  11. Weight loss
  12. Painting my house
  13. Improved relationships with coworkers
  14. Learning a foreign language
  15. Welcoming a newcomer
  16. Winner of safe driver award
  17. Successful fund-raiser
  18. Planting a beautiful garden
  19. Earning my college degree
  20. Cooking a gourmet meal

In compiling a list of achievements, you will soon come to realize that you have had many successes in life – in other words, that you have much to be grateful for. Although this is obviously true, most people are more inclined to concentrate on anything that doesn’t work instead of all the things that do.

Once you fall into this habit, it becomes easier to accept that “luck” is never with you. But now you can see that it is. In actuality, most things tend to work out and, because they do, we give them little attention. Perhaps you should take the time to do that right now.

Think back. Remember. Be grateful!

THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL

The greatest gift of all costs us nothing. It is something we have to give regardless of our immediate financial condition. What we are talking about here is the gift of love and friendship. Every act of love and friendship toward others increases our own luck-potential.

The key to genuine friendship and love exists in our desire to have others feel loved and accepted. In this case, we are not talking about a superficial attitude of friendliness, but rather genuine caring and concern for those with whom we come in daily contact.

Every act of true friendship and love sets certain forces into motion that have a positive influence upon our ability to attract more good luck and good fortune into our lives. Such actions never go unrewarded. Of course, the reverse is also true. Any negative actions toward another immediately cancel out the Law of Circulation and Good Luck.

The Law of Circulation and Good Luck

A clear understanding and wise use of this basic law will quickly determine the degree of our power to attract good luck and good fortune. Most unfortunate or unlucky people have failed (either consciously or unconsciously) to cooperate with the Law of Circulation, thereby producing negatively charged bad luck into their lives.

Exactly what IS the Law of Circulation? It is one that has been taught by every great teacher since the beginning of time. In essence, the Law of Circulation simply states “As you give, so shall you receive.”

The opposite of the Law of Circulation is, of course, selfishness and greed. NOTE: These reflections of spiritual weakness are guaranteed to attract only bad luck and misfortune with painful regularity.

It should be noted that positive actions do not necessarily bring immediate results. Think of it as making deposits in a Universal Bank. Eventually, your account will become quite large and you will be able to draw upon extremely generous reserves.

Another interesting fact to consider is that you will seldom receive back from the same people you give to. In other words, the people you are most generous toward are least likely to reciprocate, and your own inner disappointments generally stem from this totally unrealistic expectation.

How often have you been hurt because you did something for someone and they didn’t seem to appreciate it, or didn’t respond in kind? The real problem exists in your insistence that the Law of Circulation must work through the people you give to. Occasionally, it will. More often, it won’t. Still, it works!

On those occasions when I have made personal “loans” to people, I have told them not to pay the money back to me. I have asked instead that they pass it on to some other needy individual and instruct that person to do the same. This not only frees me from any unrealistic expectations; it also opens the door to other unknown and unexpected sources of return.

I prefer not to loan money to anyone unless it is a business transaction. In every other instance, I would rather give than loan. In my own mind, I have sent the loan out into the Law of Circulation, which will eventually come back to me in better ways that I could ever imagine.

From my personal point of view, the best possible return for any gift, material or otherwise, is in the sharing of an “idea.’ If I can receive one good idea that will change my personal or financial situation for the better, I consider myself paid-in-full with interest!

The principles I have shared with you in this book have always enabled me to take any good idea and multiply it many times over in a positive and profitable way. And the same can hold true for you!

By cooperating with the Law of Circulation, you will open your awareness to new and beneficial ideas. You will also enhance the awareness of others around you as they witness your true, uncalculated generosity.

Finally, the Law of Circulation will increase the probability that those others will contribute and idea or offer a solution that will prove beneficial to your own best interest, one that is sure to reward you handsomely for the rest of your life.

Cashing in on your own mistakes.

What is your Attitude of Gratitude toward making a mistake? Are you humbled or humiliated by the experience? Why not be grateful for it, for what it has actually taught you?

Lesson No. 1:

In order to correct a mistake, you are automatically forced into a positive plan of action. First, you must acknowledge the error, then track it down and pinpoint its cause. In the process, you will learn to face the problem squarely and to assume full responsibility for whatever needs to be done.

Lesson No. 2:

More often than not, some kind of action is called for after and error is made. The time to act is immediately! In this, there is another good lesson to be learned – namely, the need for overcoming the habit of procrastination.

Lesson No 3:

Many mistakes are made because of a lack of information or knowledge. Should this turn out to be the situation, then what you will earn is to better prepare yourself, to “bone up” where your knowledge is weak.

Lesson No 4:

Once you have learned to face up to a mistake, you can often take it a step further and actually conjure up a way to use it to your advantage. NOTE: Every mistake should be examined with this possibility in mind.

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Finally, you can learn from the mistakes made by others. It really isn’t necessary to make them all yourself!

Yes, mistakes are great teachers, and since that is true, you should always be grateful for what you can learn from them.

IN SUMMARY

Overall, gratitude is its own reward. The more you find to be grateful for, the better you will feel. And the better you feel, the more open you will be to that wonderful Win Factor in your life.

Remember! It is always there, just waiting to be utilized in the proper way. Assuming you are now ready to accept this as a basic law of the universe, would you say you have a legitimate reason to feel “lucky” today? Good!

You may have heard the old saying “If you want to make it a better world, then start with yourself,” Well, an excellent way to begin is with an Attitude of Gratitude.

It’s guaranteed to make you a Winner!

Dr. Robert Anthony
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Dr. Robert Anthony

The works of Dr Robert Anthony are some of the best kept secrets on the Law of Attraction. Operating without the massive self-promotion and razzmatazz that so often accompanies other ‘Personal Development’ teachers, Dr Anthony has nevertheless provided a guiding direction to some of the most successful people on the planet.

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